Boys to the left, girls to the right; How can we un-gender our classrooms? How can we change the discourse about LGBTQIA+ individuals from “they” to “possibly you or me”? How can we make sure that our classroom communities are safe, empowering and diversity-inclusive? I will try to answer these questions by sharing what I have learnt as an openly-gay teacher in dialogue with LGBTQIA+ students in the university community.